Does the guy ALWAYS pay??...

[Mark_H]

Ok, so a good friend of mine is a huge pushover and ALWAYS pays when he and his GF go out...whether it be food, snacks, movies, ice cream etc etc. I mean it's BAD...on his days off he will meet her on her lunch break and buy her lunch. Not their relationship is always contentios so he's too much of a wuss to spell out the fact that he can't keep up this pace of paying for everything or she'll get pissed and break it off with him.

My logic is that eventually in a relationship there is some give and take. He's not rich and always complains about being broke. All of my GF's over the years never let me pay all the time...at the very least they'll throw in the tip after an expensive dinner, treat me to a night out every once in a while etc etc...

So the question to the masses is:
In a "serious" boyfriend/girlfriend relationship does the guy literally pay for everything all the time? Let me know your thoughts and I'll pass them on.
Thanks.

[Brian]

In a serious relationship it should always be give and take. If she is they type that demands he pay for everything all of the time, then she's a gold diggin' ho and he needs to move on.

[303Mike]

Has to be give and take or like you said he is going to not pay for something and she will flip shit because she has always had it that way. It sounds like he is or will be taken advantage of before to long.

[Brandon]

x3........

Does she have a lot of extra spending money?

[Slava]

I can't say that guy pays all the time but majority. I'd say 70% of the time in a serious relation ship the guy will pay.

[Kwando]

Sounds like hes getting shafted!

[Mark_H]

x3........

Does she have a lot of extra spending money?

Yes. She has a job and lives at home with her rich parents.

[Brian]

With my fiance, I pay more often, but I also make more money. She offers to pay quite often which I sometimes accept and sometimes decline, but the main point is that she offers. It sounds like this girl may not be the type that will ever offer, and that's what would bother me.

[Terry]

Tell her to start paying also

[hrcDSM719]

I agree with everyone else and say that it should be give/take. Dont get me wrong, I treat her to a movie or meal/etc, but she'll turn right around and do the same.

With her 'rents being rich AND her having a job Id definately say he's getting the short end of the stick...whats the point of dating a rich chick if she's not yer sugar-mama!? haha

One hand washes the other, and thats how it should be, IMO

[Mark_H]

All good points guys, thanks and keep 'em coming.

I'm using this as ammo for the fact he's an idiot:) I honestly just hate seeing him broke and shelling out hundreds of dollars a week for her when he really shouldn't have to do so to have a good relationship.

[way2slow]

She should at least offer to pay! Then that way your friend has the option to pay or not. If she demands that he pay all of the time he should probally take a good look at his relationship.

[Kwando]

sometimes people have to be hurt to realize that they were being taken advantage of.

[hrcDSM719]

sometimes people have to be hurt to realize that they were being taken advantage of.

very true...

[redb20teg]

I usually pay for everything, but thats just when I can tell I will get something out of it :) ..i'ts like a legal hooker. I also usually make more than them so I dont feel so bad.

theres guys that will go out of their way though to buy them shit or help them out with stuff that doesnt involve them and that just pathetic IMO

[jackmode9316]

Well I used to pay for everything, but I noticed the lack of offering to pay so...., I just start making her ass pay when I feel like she should.

"Oh you expected ME to pay for dinner?"
"Excuse me waiter, we are not going to be eating here after all"
"Looks like we are going to Taco Bell again Honey"

^ All a very true story.

[Dave_L]

Was that before or after you gave her $600 and a battery?

[jackmode9316]

Was that before or after you gave her $600 and a battery?

You S.O.B.


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