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(story that leads into a question) Im from Texas, moved up here 1/2 way through my senior year in highschool. When HS was done I moved back down to live with my girlfriend and basically just hang out and work. I did that for a year, and then last May I moved back up. Since then I have been nothing but a bum, I dont go to school, dont have a real job, though I do odd jobs for people around the neighbor hood. I would like to go to school but just not sure of what I would like to major in. When I lived on my own, and took care of myself I felt like I was doing something with my life and not just wasting it, my parents were proud and it felt good to do it on your own. Now living back with my parents not doing anything I feel like a waste of a person. Ive been talking to my "GF" about what to do, move back down, or stay up here and maby she move up. Like I said I want to go to school but I feel like if I move back down Im going to have to get a job, therefor to pay for everything and put school again on hold, Im just worried that if I put school off for to long im never going to go. So therefor the obvious answer is to stay and maby she move up, idk I just dont really enjoy it up here, im sure its because I havent gave it a chance or dont really know anyone. But I just felt more comfortable down there. Im just F'ing confused as a MOFO. Basically I felt good living on my own, and I want to do that again, and for some reason (no offence(sp)) I just dont want to live here, nor give it a chance. So my question is should I move back down, work and just do night classes and slowly get my degree, or should i STFU, stay up here and do something. Hopefully this makes some kind of since(sp) and get somekind of feedback, sorry for the long read
Zach
Dave_L
09-26-2006, 09:41 PM
If you really want to go back to school, the easiest way to do it will be while you live at your parents. Why not try it for a semester and see how it goes. You'll also get a chance to meet some new people. It sounds like you don't get out a whole lot and you havent really met too many people yet. That would make living somewhere new shitty. Why not come to some of the meets that we have? We're all nice and always welcome a new person.
As far as the GF thing...I dont recommend moving for a girl. Do what makes you happy. What if you move down there and you guys break up? Then what...you'll have all these things around you that remind you of the good times and you'll just get depressed. Who knows...it could be different for you though. I know you're young and this is the time that you should be out enjoying life and living life to the fullest.
exciv2000
09-26-2006, 10:41 PM
Dave said pretty much everything i would have said.
Deceptakhan
09-26-2006, 10:45 PM
Yup. Good stuff Dave. Just look to the future, you will be old like us one day. Usually people that live for the moment don't have much to show later on but memories.
Nightfall
09-26-2006, 10:52 PM
Yup. Good stuff Dave. Just look to the future, you will be old like us one day. Usually people that live for the moment don't have much to show later on but memories.
...and once you die you don't have anything to show. Have fun while you are here, do what you want to do. You don't want to look back and realize that you wasted almost all your time here to become proficient in a subject, to get a good job, and then spend all your time working, etc. what have you. You will want to look back and say you had a fun fucking life and you enjoyed yourself while you were here.
Dave_L
09-26-2006, 11:01 PM
Usually people that live for the moment don't have much to show later on but memories.
In the end, memories are all we have.
Nightfall
09-26-2006, 11:07 PM
In the end, memories are all we have.
Word... that is what I was trying to say. You just made it simple ;)
Dave_L
09-26-2006, 11:14 PM
:)
Mario
09-26-2006, 11:22 PM
Man if you have a good attitude towards school than totally do it. I love college. I am not great at it, but I love it. I love the environment.
If you can establish the motivation for school and work, and still live at home... then by all means do it. Me, personally, I had to move out on my own to do it... but if you have the will power, and the good terms with parents, just stay home. :)
Deceptakhan
09-26-2006, 11:25 PM
Well, yes. Your word, balls and memories. Live life! But concentrate on your future, it will make your life mucher richer. I lived for the moment for years, until I woke up one day and realized I didn't have shit. You get out of life what you put into it.
ryanman
09-27-2006, 12:25 AM
Concenrate on what you want to do and don't let some woman do it for you.
Loud_Scott
09-27-2006, 07:46 AM
If you really want to go back to school, the easiest way to do it will be while you live at your parents. Why not try it for a semester and see how it goes. You'll also get a chance to meet some new people. It sounds like you don't get out a whole lot and you havent really met too many people yet. That would make living somewhere new shitty. Why not come to some of the meets that we have? We're all nice and always welcome a new person.
As far as the GF thing...I dont recommend moving for a girl. Do what makes you happy. What if you move down there and you guys break up? Then what...you'll have all these things around you that remind you of the good times and you'll just get depressed. Who knows...it could be different for you though. I know you're young and this is the time that you should be out enjoying life and living life to the fullest.
wow... dave_l has a deep side?
if ur gonna goto school do it up here while ur living @ home -- like already has been said; that's a good place to meet people. Give it a try and if u still hate not having any air to breathe then move backdown, in the end you've only wasted another 3-6 months...
Dave_L
09-27-2006, 08:05 AM
Amazing isn't it Scott? :)
again thanks for all the input. The thing is I know you guys are right, but somehow I get sidetracked and lose site of whats inportant, and its hard to adjust back. :thumbup:
if ur gonna goto school do it up here while ur living @ home -- like already has been said; that's a good place to meet people. Give it a try and if u still hate not having any air to breathe then move backdown, in the end you've only wasted another 3-6 months...
true, well put :)
12seccivy
09-28-2006, 10:36 PM
again thanks for all the input. The thing is I know you guys are right, but somehow I get sidetracked and lose site of whats inportant, and its hard to adjust back. :thumbup:
Maybe you need to quit smoking pot?..LOL,, j/k
You sound like you are stuck in the parent trap/rut.
I moved out at 17 and never took a dime from my parents since..
I knocked down the door to gain independece from them..
You might need to find a place to call your own.I know it 's hard when you arent working,but the short term goals might help give some perspective and make decisions again..
As far as I can tell,There is a LOT of good advice given in this thread already..
They all involve the short term ambitions..You can't plan long term goals if you have nothing for the short run..It's too far away to reach.
so..Get a job, a place ,maybe think about school..If you decide you dont like it here, then move back to texas..
Maybe you need to quit smoking pot?..LOL,, j/k
You sound like you are stuck in the parent trap/rut.
I moved out at 17 and never took a dime from my parents since..
I knocked down the door to gain independece from them..
You might need to find a place to call your own.I know it 's hard when you arent working,but the short term goals might help give some perspective and make decisions again..
As far as I can tell,There is a LOT of good advice given in this thread already..
They all involve the short term ambitions..You can't plan long term goals if you have nothing for the short run..It's too far away to reach.
so..Get a job, a place ,maybe think about school..If you decide you dont like it here, then move back to texas..
i havent smoked since may, and then I went down to texas a couple weeks ago to scope it out hang out with some people and smoked all that week, so thats really not my problem(and yes i see that you were joking) but everything else you said very true and thanks for the input:)
12seccivy
09-29-2006, 09:24 PM
i havent smoked since may, and then I went down to texas a couple weeks ago to scope it out hang out with some people and smoked all that week, so thats really not my problem(and yes i see that you were joking) but everything else you said very true and thanks for the input:)
just trying to help.. I'm not anti-pot.. if it were not illegal,I would do it occasionally again.. but drug testing says..ahh-ohh, dat's a no-no..:cry:
just trying to help.. I'm not anti-pot.. if it were not illegal,I would do it occasionally again.. but drug testing says..ahh-ohh, dat's a no-no..:cry:
:thumbup: its all good i knew what you meant
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