Question about friends...

[Mario]

Hey guys, serious (:p) question here. My friend's been going out with this girl for... whatever half year or so, and he's been pretty much isolating himself. We don't hang, rarely talk, seems like shit is parting seperate ways and he's a lot different. Is this just a stage... or should I plan on it staying like this? Most of my close friends never really done this, so I am wondering if anyone's got an experience to share.

[stu]

I think that's pretty common for young kids to do, but I also feel that someone that young doesn't need to have that much of his time taken up by just one person. Having guy time is important, and I don't expect this relationship to last all that long if he doesn't get it.

[Mario]

I think that's pretty common for young kids to do, but I also feel that someone that young doesn't need to have that much of his time taken up by just one person. Having guy time is important, and I don't expect this relationship to last all that long if he doesn't get it.

That's kinda what I was thinking. He's a 4.0 student, now has 2 C's... he doesn't pick up his phone when he's around her (but he can't miss a phone call when she calls when he's around friends). Is it worth mentioning or talking to him...?

[stu]

Well...maybe. Chances are he won't listen to you, and will just get pissed off at you. This is just part of growing up. I'd just leave him be and let him come back on his own time. Although it may be worth it to say something at least once. That way when he's breaking up with her, he'll realize that everyone saw what was happening but him. Then maybe in the future he'll be more careful and place more trust in his friends.

[Maxx]

It happens. I have friends that I haven't even seen since they got into a serious relationship. Fact is, most girls think that if your not spending time with them, that you value your friends more than you value them.

I don't think you should hold it against your friend...things just change.

[SlamMan]

I wouldn't say anything if you don't want to piss him off. They most likely wont get married but you never know.

That kinda stuff will start happening to you and people all around you sooner than you think.

[Mario]

Well...maybe. Chances are he won't listen to you, and will just get pissed off at you. This is just part of growing up. I'd just leave him be and let him come back on his own time.

Yea, that's what I figured... and I thought that might happen within that 1/2 year, I gave him space (I told his mom this too)... but maybe it'll last longer.

[stu]

I edited my post just so you know. If I were going to bring it up, I'd just say something like, "Hey, why don't you hang out with us anymore?" and let it go from there.

[Mario]

Maxx - good points. He's a really good friend (I'd definitely call him my best friend) as well, I'm not holding anything against him or mad. Maybe disappointed?? But not mad or resentful.

[Mario]

I edited my post just so you know. If I were going to bring it up, I'd just say something like, "Hey, why don't you hang out with us anymore?" and let it go from there.

I told him we needa hang over summer and do stuff like old times, and he kinda brushed it off with a light 'yeaa' and made it sound like it was too much to fit in his schedule.

[Dave_L]

In my opinion its just a phase. This always happens. As soon as a girl gets into the picture and it gets serious everything else just dissappears kind of. The guy only hangs out with her and the friends never see him hardly. He will realize it at some point. It happened to me. i was dating a girl for almost 10 months and i kind of dropped most of my friends. Once we broke up i realized what happened and i wont let it happen again. Bros before hos man.

[albsjdm03]

Hey, yeah one of my best friends tends to do this All I can say through my experience is eventually they will get tired of eachother or break up and your friend will need someone around when this happens. So just stick it out or tell him something.

[Mario]

In my opinion its just a phase. This always happens. As soon as a girl gets into the picture and it gets serious everything else just dissappears kind of. The guy only hangs out with her and the friends never see him hardly. He will realize it at some point. It happened to me. i was dating a girl for almost 10 months and i kind of dropped most of my friends. Once we broke up i realized what happened and i wont let it happen again. Bros before hos man.

Yeap. BTW, he said that before dating... bros before hos. Maybe he got it switched. :rofl:

[Dave_L]

Ya people always say that until they "fall in love" with a girl. At this age its not worth giving up your friends completely. he has to learn it by himself tho. thats the only way. If you do get in a relationship you have to manage friends and the relationship equally. Even if its one night a week that you just hang out with the friends it s usually enough.

[LeonZ]

Tell him - Turbos over Hoes.

[fodo]

Tell him - Turbos over Hoes.

what's a turbo ultimately for?

Hizzles

[djet820]

Haha, my best friend did that to me...then I went on vacation, I come back and he tells me he's engaged. I go camping for a weekend, I come back and he's married. I go to college and then he tells me his wife is pregnant.

Yeah, it's pretty interesting haha. You should've met the girl at the beginning of the relationship so she knows you're not a "hazard" or something...With my other friend, it worked out great that way. I met his girlfriend, he met mine and we would hang out all the time. And every now and then get our "alone" time with our girlfriends.

[powder311]

I kinda feel like I am in your friends position right now.. I must admit I kinda backed off my freinds for a couple of months but I always managed to schedule man love time in at least once a week... You need it.. What good is having a good relationship if you can't retreat? EVERYONE needs a break now and then.. He's probly still gettin laid three times a day and doesn't have the time or energy to hang out.. Basically in the pst three or four months it's all gotten back to normal only I have a little more baggage than I used to (baggage w/36 c's):) but its all good.. my friends like her.. I like her, and it's all worked out really nice.. I dunno man.. leave him alone... he's still your friend he's just gettin lucky at this point and having a good time.. Do say something but don't make it a big deal... Basically I am pretty sure I put some of my friends in your position very recently and all you can do is let shit happen.. Lucky for me it all worked out... um yeah.. I never really got to a point in this thread... anyway.. l8!

[Ashton]

If he really likes her than thats what happens... its stupid but that is what happens to whipped guys.... i might suggest making a whip noise around him and he will be like oh shit they think im whipped....

[powder311]

i might suggest making a whip noise around him and he will be like oh shit they think im whipped....
I highly recomend that.... ;NutKick;



AND CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHAT THIS EMOTICON IS DOING?!?! ---------> :cheers:

[stu]

Powder, that is the best thing I've ever seen you post on here so far, and that smiley is toasting, then taking a shot/drink.

AV, why would you want to clown on someone for finding love? I'm going to start making a cash register noise around you because you're "whipped" by your car payments.